Sometimes conflict arises from a seemingly minor incident. It appears on the surface that someone has over-reacted to the situation. Often in these cases what appears to be the disagreement is not the real area of conflict or it's a single instance of a bigger underlying problem.

These underlying conflicts tend to sit under the surface, although in some cases people know of the problem, but are not willing, or unable, to tackle the root cause of the conflict. It can take some courage and the appropriate skills and the right approach to tackle such a situation. These are the situations that cause fault lines in communities and families that ultimately result in relationships being fractured.