Blaming is something most of us learned in early life often linked with being punished if something was found to be your fault. It can become a learned behaviour that to succeed you need to be able to pin the blame on someone else. That way you avoid being punished. This ingrained behaviour can be perpetuated through our lives. How many times have you heard 'Who is to blame?'

In a situation where we are looking to restore relations reverting to blaming behaviour is unhelpful and often destructive. A useful way to handle blaming is rather than thinking of who is to blame, is to explore contributions to the problem, accepting that everyone involved may have contributed in some way.